Even if She Laughs, Your ‘Ironic’ Sexist Jokes Still Suck

For something to be ironic, it has to be obvious to the listener that you don’t mean what you’re saying — that, in fact, what you believe to be true is the exact opposite of the words coming out of your mouth. Try as you might to prove in every other way that you aren’t, you know, actually sexist, you have one major problem: telling a sexist joke, even ironically, hurts women.

And nothing says “I’m not sexist” quite like hurting a woman just for a laugh.

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Stop Treating Me Like My Body Is A Problem To Be Fixed

I don’t know that I’ve ever really trusted doctors.

My mother, a nurse as long as I’ve known her, tried to teach me to advocate for myself. She told me to ask questions, to do my own research, to know what I was getting myself into, and to remember that those men — because they were always men — were not omnipotent gods, but fallible humans just like her, just like me, just like you. They just happened to also be the gatekeepers of adequate health.

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I’m a Fat Woman – here’s what you should know about dating me

Dating as a polyamorous woman brings with it a lifetime’s worth of misconceptions and jealousies. Add a few extra layers of fat to that experience, and things can get depressing real fast. As a non-single, fat, polyamorous woman, I can’t tell you how often I’ve been questioned about my confidence, self-worth, who I am, and why I’m into what I’m into.

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Ecstatic Science and the Erotic Brain

You can blame it on hook up culture. You can call out a sex-ed epidemic, or invoke the wild mystery that is the female body, but when the pants and the inhibitions drop, all that really matters is that women are not having the orgasms they deserve.

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