Even if She Laughs, Your ‘Ironic’ Sexist Jokes Still Suck

For something to be ironic, it has to be obvious to the listener that you don’t mean what you’re saying — that, in fact, what you believe to be true is the exact opposite of the words coming out of your mouth. Try as you might to prove in every other way that you aren’t, you know, actually sexist, you have one major problem: telling a sexist joke, even ironically, hurts women.

And nothing says “I’m not sexist” quite like hurting a woman just for a laugh.

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I’m a Fat Woman – here’s what you should know about dating me

Dating as a polyamorous woman brings with it a lifetime’s worth of misconceptions and jealousies. Add a few extra layers of fat to that experience, and things can get depressing real fast. As a non-single, fat, polyamorous woman, I can’t tell you how often I’ve been questioned about my confidence, self-worth, who I am, and why I’m into what I’m into.

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This is How to Change the Game

The stories we tell ourselves about our shared human condition shape society in weird, and often unglamorous ways. According to modern hook-up culture mythology, unhappy young women and all-too-eager young men are at odds with each other in nearly every way. Read More