This is How to Change the Game

The stories we tell ourselves about our shared human condition shape society in weird, and often unglamorous ways. According to modern hook-up culture mythology, unhappy young women and all-too-eager young men are at odds with each other in nearly every way.

Earlier this week on the New York Times blog, Natalie Kitroeff revealed the reality behind this virulent mythology: the inequality in hook-ups lies not in mismatched desire, but unequal pleasure.


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