How the ‘Silent Treatment’ Can Help Couples Grow Closer

I knew going into a ten-day silent retreat with my husband in tow that any expectations I had would just get in the way of the experience. And yet, I found myself convinced that it would mark some profound , world-shifting change between us. I wanted to come home and say, “Silent meditation changed my life.”

I hoped that our entire communication strategy would shift. I fantasized about how incredible our post-retreat sex would be. My daydreams were filled with the incredible spiritual and philosophical conversations we would have, sharing all our insights and experiences.


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